It has been 3,5 years since our children had been taken away. The children have not been returned back yet. In this part, I would like to state the facts that prove that this was planned intentionally by the social service employees.
When we moved to a new house, nobody knew our new address. Neither our close friends nor my wife’s parents. It was only social employees that often visited us and knew where we lived. As nobody knew our new address, no one could date a complaint regarding the way we took care of our children. There lived a large family in the basement not far from our new house. The conditions of their house were ten times worse than our house’s. I allow myself to write about them because they do not reside there anymore, therefore they won’t be followed by the social service employees. I want to say that if somebody from our neighbors dated a complaint regarding our children, this family would be the first to be noticed. But there was nobody against them. We did not have any issues with any of our neighbors too. If there was no one to date a complaint against us, who could that be? My opinion is that it was dated either by acquaintances of the social employees or by the social employees themselves. Somebody else just could not do it. And there is still a question – was there really a complaint made? The complaint was not mentioned in the court and we were not told who issued a complaint. This could not be a continuation of the previous inspection. When the children were taken away, it was always mentioned that there was a complaint.
There are more significant facts that proved that it all was planned intentionally. But I will not write them here.
Earlier, one of my lawyers said that usually social employees do not hurry to transfer the affairs to the criminal court, but try to help the families to solve the issues. In our case, even those small complaints were exaggerated by the social service employees.
The fact that my children have not been returned for more than 3,5 years proves that my family is persecuted by the social service employees.
Three years later, after our children were taken, social service employees have stated in the court report that I can take care of the children. Finally, there was the truth listed.
As for me, I can say that I haven’t become better. I have always been the way I am. This can be confirmed by my friends, acquaintances, clients, children’s doctors, social employees of other organizations. Also, some positive characteristics have been mentioned about me during the days when I visited children. Therefore, it happens that all this time, false information stating that I am unable to take care of the kids was given to the court. All this time, I took courses for parents and had plenty of talks with psychologists although I never needed them. It feels like doctors diagnose an absolutely healthy person with an incurable illness and start treating him while making money because of that. And 3 years later claim that they have cured the person and ask for another one to treat.
If you happen to be in such a situation in a hospital, when you, a healthy person, are being diagnosed with an incurable disease, you can go to another hospital where you will be told that you are healthy. But if your children are taken away and if you are said not to be able to take care of the kids, you cannot go to another organization where the social employees will confirm that you are a good parent, that you take care of the kids and that you do not need any psychologists or courses for parents.
There is a question then – why did it have to take more than 3 years for them to give me a positive characteristic? The answer is that I finally had an opportunity to move freely with my kids during the last 6 months. During this time, I had an opportunity to go to other specialists who could give me a trustworthy characteristic.
All this time I have been followed by different social service employees.
I think that if to take away the kids from the parent who is absolutely psychologically healthy who has significant experience in children’s upbringing, provide false complaints about him and take him to SCO, then he will also be continuously directed to different courses for parents so that the organization can make money on that. Here's how it goes – even if you are a good parent, but if you are falsely blamed for not taking care of the kids, you will be later presented as a bad parent by SCO to show that the SCO’s actions are actually correct to make more money on you. Usually, large families are selected for that so that there is a double benefit from it – more kids to ask money for from the government and fewer parents to fight against the social workers.
The last time when I published the material against the actions of the social workers, their resistance against me started to grow. However, it did not impact personal relationships in any way. Communication during all the meetings and contacts continued in a calm way. But they still continued to follow me. Here I will provide several examples.
The first example. SCO agency provides the subway, train tickets for the parents that come to visit their children. The agency gets them at a lower price and gives them out to the parents to help them. For instance, if a parent goes to an SCO agency by himself, he has to spend $30 on the transportation tickets. If he visits his children 2 times during the week, then it is $60. On average, it is around $270 per month. The agency says it all and I am thankful for that. In my case, the agency stopped giving me the tickets for some time. There were tickets for other parents that came to visit their children. They did not have the tickets only for me. I started buying the tickets with my own money and then gave a check to the agency and after a while, I got the money back.
Second example. During one of the court sessions, the judge gave some instructions for the social workers (I will not say which instructions exactly). In 4 months after the court, there was no single action by the social workers that were instructed by the judge. It was implemented only a month before the court. Thus the instruction of the court was not executed. Although the social service workers tried to show that they had actually followed it.
Third example. During the last court session, there was a small step made towards getting the kids back. I was allowed to take the kids home during the weekends. They did not have any reasons to keep the kids. All the requirements stated by the ACS and SCO were fulfilled. At this stage, children should be returned to their parents. Soc. workers had only this to say in court that they agree with a full refund children, for children it will be the best option. But they did not. This is another indication that everything is done to ensure that children's return was prolonged.
Fourth example. Those, who live in the US know that much is done for the sake of children, disabled and old people in this country. I do not know any other country that cares more about those three categories of people. If it takes around 10-20 minutes for a child to get to school, a school bus takes a child to the school even if the child is healthy and no one of the other kids lives by his side. A school bus may go to pick up one child to the other side of the city.
In our situation, we were allowed to take the kids to our house during the weekends.
1. It takes around 3 hours to take the kids from one place to another using public transport. Social service workers know that.
2. I go to pick up the kids alone. My wife does not go (I won’t state the reason here). Alone with three small kids, I have to take the train, subway and make transfers where a lot of people move. Social service workers know that.
3. I have to take the kids home during the winter as well despite the snow, coldness, rain, and strong wind outside. Children have to be taken at a certain time and have to be returned at a certain time as well without being late.
4. All three children are being under doctors’ are observed by the doctors. Such a way is too difficult and dangerous for them. Social service workers know that.
When my lawyer asked the social service workers for transportation to be provided, his request was rejected. There are different options for transportation to be provided. According to the calculations, money which is spent on tickets purchase for me and the kids is able to cover the cost for the separate transportation. It proves again that social service workers go against me rather than truly care for the kids, their health, and their security.
As a result, I have to take the kids outside during any weather whether it is snow, rain, or cold. Many people do not take their dogs out for a long time, but kids have to be on their way for more than 3 hours. On Friday night and Sunday night when the whole subway is crowded. When not every grown-up can even come in the subway. There were situations when I had to miss several trains in the subway in order to get to the less crowded train. There were bags behind my back too. Sometimes in order not to stand with the kids at the train station, I took the train to the opposite side till the very end, to take a half-empty train.
If you have ever used a subway, then you know that it is a very risky place for people, particularly for children. There are warning statements all over the place. You have to keep your children by the hand when going on the escalator so that he does not fall down and hurt himself. When on the escalator, you also have to watch the kids carefully so that no one of the other people pushes them down. When on the platform, waiting for the train, you have to keep your child’s hand so that he does not fall down under the train. When going in and out of the train’s wagon, you also have to keep the child by your side. On the train, it is also important to keep your child by the hand, so that during the sharp move and braking, the child does not fall down. There are numerous situations when you have to keep your child by the hand. The question to the workers that do not provide the transportation. Could you please provide the instructions on how can one person carry the bags in one hand and help three small children that are in the subway for the first time? During all these extreme situations I handled taking good care of the kids. I was confident in myself and my children and always helped them. If there was a parent who has problems with attention and concentration instead of me, then something bad could happen to the child.
But I don’t complain. I am glad and I am thankful to God that I have such an opportunity to take the kids home. There is a question to the social service workers. Why do you drive service cars yourselves, but do not provide the transport for the kids? Or don’t you provide that hoping that something bad will happen and then you can state that you were right saying that I was a bad parent. You will never get such a chance. The whole winter I have been taking the kids during the extreme weather but nothing bad has ever happened to them and will never happen. Although, in my life, if not this specific situation, I would never take the kids out in such extreme weather. Now, if during the bad weather, I will not take the kids from the organization, it will be a disadvantage for me that I have missed the visit. Moreover, children are looking forward to my visit every day.
What the use and harm for the kids and their parents do the actions of the social service workers cause? Let’s analyze the use and harm towards me and my kids in my particular situation. There are no advantages during the last 3,5 years. Courses for parents that I had to attend equally to the situation when you graduate from school with excellence but then have to take the 1st-grade classes again. I have been taken to the psychologists but no one of the independent psychologists had found any psychological or mental problems in me. The question is – have I become a better parent for the last 3,5 years? No, I haven’t. I was a good parent and I am still a good parent. I do not want to brag. But I am such a person that if someone points at my disadvantages then I look at myself and if I have such disadvantages then I try to get rid of them. Thus, during the 3,5 years, there was no use neither for me nor for the kids.
What are the disadvantages for me and for my children, for other parents and for other children? It is really a hard, psychological injury for children. Children get stressed and depressed. Many psychological and mental problems develop in children. Many children happen to slow down in their studies and development. Many children become more aggressive and nervous. All those factors impact their future life. Taking a kid from the family negatively affects the formation of the child’s personality. Most of such children having grown up have some psychological and mental problems. It is difficult for most of them to become part of society. They become alcoholics, drug users, or homeless. They feel rejected by society. What happens with the parents, from whom the kids are taken for a while or for their whole life? Parents spend all their efforts and money for the purpose of taking the children back. They spend money on lawyers, consultations, letters in different organizations, advertisements. In the end, many parents lose their job. They can’t find a new job either, as they are not accepted due to the fact that they have been involved in criminal investigations and police arrests. Due to the internet, any employer can find that out. Without a job, many parents lose their old good houses and move to new ones, which are even worse houses, which are not good enough for keeping the children according to the parameters of the social workers.
If parents do not have immigration status, then involvement in the criminal affair and police arrest take the opportunity to get that immigration status. In the worst case, parents can be departed from the country and lose an opportunity to prove their rightness in court.
If parents have some small psychological problems that do not negatively affect their kids, then after the kids are taken away, those problems start to develop. When the children are taken away, parents get stressed and depressed and some of the psychological problems such as aggressiveness, nervousness, and irritability start to develop.
If parents have some mental problems, then after their kids are taken away, those mental problems develop more. As parents get stressed and depressed, they start having insomnia, fear of loss of their kids, lethargy, carelessness, laziness, apathy, indifference. Due to stress and long-term depressions, many parents get such diseases as heart diseases, headaches, insomnia, diseases of some organs. If parents have a hereditary predisposition to cancer, then over several years of stress and depression, cancer can develop too.
I can describe my condition here. When I found myself in the immigration prison and when I understood that I can be deported and that my wife alone won’t be able to take the kids back, I went through very deep stress and depression. I started having problems with my heart. I could not sleep at all. I was thinking about my situation over and over again. If I happened to stay in such a regime for longer, I would simply not be able to handle that. I would probably have a heart attack or I would have been put on heavy psychotropic drugs, because of which I would sleep or “have a nonending smile on my face”. What have I done? Firstly, I rejected any food, not for the sake of the protest, but to help myself. I started meditating. I started praying to God. When the food was brought, I simply gave it to my neighbors and just sat and talked to them during lunchtime. On the 7th day of my starvation, someone told the security that I did not eat. They started watching me. During the 10th day of my starvation, I was taken to the medical part. The doctor asked me why I did not eat. I had said that I simply did not want to eat. At that moment I already could not eat. He asked me if I did that for the sake of protest. I answered no. On the 17th day of my starvation, I was taken to the hospital. At the hospital, I also refused any food and medicine. I constantly meditated and prayed to God. I started feeling better. Stress and depression faded away. During the 20th day of my starvation, the doctor said that if I do not stop starving then they will take me to the psychological hospital. I knew that if this happened that it would be against my freedom and uniting with the family. After 22 days of starvation, I started eating. I was saved because I knew many techniques to get rid of stress and depression. My faith in God also helped me a lot. Most of the parents are not familiar with the methods of helping themselves during critical situations. Most normal and healthy parents simply “burn” in their stresses, depressions, and insomnias after their children are taken away. They start having some health issues. Later, social service workers take all those issues into the account and it is even harder for the parents to take the kids back.
It is very hard for many parents to see how much their children suffer. In order not to stress themselves and their children, they do not come to visit their children and lose them forever.
Taking the kids from the parents, social service workers create many problems. Due to those problems, many parents cannot take their kids back.
For instance, what the social service workers not only in my situation but in many others do is a crime.
1. Taking the kids from the family because of false accusations
2. Persecuting the parents that criticize their actions.
3. Violating all human rights and freedom.
4. Giving false accusations in the court
5. Not implementing the court’s decision
6. Stealing money from the government. Making the false accusation and taking the kids, they take money from the government to spend it on their salaries, thus lying to the government.
7. Many people lose their confidence in the judiciary and justice. Many people see that you can do any kind of crime and not take any responsibility or punishment for that. Thus, social service workers set an example – they do whatever they want and do not bear any responsibility for that. If you are a doctor, for instance, then you may diagnose wrong diseases or prescribe the wrong medicine and you won’t bear any responsibility for that, you will have more patients and get more money with that. If you are a mechanic, and you get your car after the accident, you can point at some parts of the car that are not damaged, but you can state that they are actually damaged and take money from the insurance company. There can be hundreds of examples. By their attitude, social service workers show that one can commit a crime and he does not have to bear any responsibility for that but make money on it. Thus, degradation of society takes place and it sets a wrong example for others.
8. It makes people feel against the government and court. There are many cases like mine described on the internet and parents always criticize the government and the court because of the crime committed by social service workers. Social workers break the trust in the government and the court of the parents. By their actions, they harm the reputation of the government and the court in the eyes of society.
Here is my personal opinion. It is not the fault of the government. The government does everything it can to help parents and their children, it invests much money, proposes different programs for the support of the parents and their children. It relies on the honesty of the workers, that get money from the government and work in the organizations that operate for the sake of children. The problem is that many social workers deceive the government and harm its reputation. If there is a crime committed, the government has nothing to do with it. Guilty are the people, who have committed a crime. If you got robbed, you would not blame the government, you would blame the robbers. The situation is the same here – if your children get taken away, the government is not to blame, but those who took your kids based on the false accusation.
I also would like to say something about the court. I am very thankful to the court that everything is done in accordance with the law. The judge does everything that he can in order to come to a compromise and to solve the issues as soon as possible. I understand very well that the judge does everything in order to satisfy the requirements of the social workers. Social workers say that I should take the courses for parents, the judge tells me to take the courses for parents and I take the courses. Social workers say that I should visit the psychologists, the judge tells me to visit the psychologists and I visit the psychologists. Social workers say that I and my children should be watched, the judge states the same. I follow all the requirements of the court although I do not agree with them. I understand very well that a judge has power. For example, the judge can give me the children, but then soc. workers will appeal to a higher court to appeal the judge's decision Reexamining the issue may take even longer. Therefore, the judge does everything to satisfy the requirements of the social workers and to return the children as soon as possible. Social workers understand it and they do their best not to return the kids. I wrote several years ago that social workers will do everything not to return the kids. The situation is true. I am followed by them.
During those 3,5 years, children are very stressed. They are looking forward to the moment they can come back home. Children always ask me why do they have to live separately. Now, when I take them home for the weekend, it is even harder for them to leave. I always have to speak to them positively about the host family. I always have to convince them that it is better for them, that they have their school there and that they have to live in that place for a while. All those stresses and depressions during 3,5 years negatively impact their health. Taking children from the families is the worst action towards the kids. There can be nothing worse for the kids than that, well maybe if only concentrated Nazi camps of the second world war. The actions of the social service workers are similar to the slavery times when children could easily be taken from their parents. But we live in the civilized world, in the most democratic country of the world. Why is it allowed in America? When the social service workers come to take the kids from the parents, parents are usually afraid to say something negative and thus they can’t protect their children. Therefore, many crimes conducted by social service workers are not noticed.
There is a specific number of workers in all the ACS and SCO agencies. More people get hired and more departments get open. Those organizations expand and develop. In order to provide the workers with something to do, they need “material for work” – what is taken, kids. When they lack those kids, they lose their jobs. When there are no taken kids, there are no reports, no work indicators, no government money. Thus, if they lack such children, they have to fire some employees and close the departments. Nobody wants to get fired. It is hard to survive in the economic crisis today using unemployment benefits. Then there is a solution – get the children, work, and earn money on that. Many social service workers that find themselves in such a situation are ready to do anything possible. They have to take the kids from the family for any possible reason. There are always complaints about the families in ACS. Many complaints are not reasonable. Social service workers go from one family to another looking for families where they can take the kids.
The first in the raw are the families that do not have any legal immigration status. Taking kids from such families always may scare them with deportation. Or they can even deport them. Moreover, many immigrants do not have good English, do not know their rights well, do not earn much, and can’t find good lawyers.
The second category includes families that have many children. It is very beneficial for social organizations as they can make money from the government for each child. There will be less resistance, as there is one parent for several kids. It is much easier than if there were two parents per one child.
The third category includes families where parents have some small psychological or mental problems although those issues do not impact children in any way. When taking the kids from such families, social service workers can always support their decision by stating that such parents pose a threat for the kids and that parents need some treatment. Usually, such parents do not get their children back. Due to stress and depression, their diseases become worse. Doctors prescribe some medicine to them and as time goes they need more and more of this medicine. As a result, such parents are deprived of their parental rights, “break down” and stop their effort to get their kids back. The first and the second cases are quite beneficial for the workers as it shows that they perform their job quite well.
The fourth category includes families with one parent. Only one mother or one father with kids. It is easy to fabricate a lawsuit against such people and take the children from the family as it is much easier to “break” a parent who does not have support. Social service workers can claim any accusation and they will be believed.
When children are taken from the family, social service workers get “material” on which they can work. Money is taken from the government. The organizations try to keep children as long as possible in order to make money from the government. They use any possible opportunities for that. They state that parents cannot look after their children well, they make parents attend the courses for parents and psychologists. Also, social service workers do not state their requirements one at a time, they state them gradually. In the beginning, they may not require any courses. Then, in 6 months they will make you attend the courses for parents. Another 6 months later, they will take you to another psychologist. The longer they do not give the kids back, the more money they can take from the government.
If to take a look at ACS and SCO, it will be obvious that those are two different organizations. But the employees of both organizations support and help each other. If for instance, an ACS employee took the kids from a normal family by mistake and thus, provided work for SCO employees, then SCO employees will do anything possible to prove that the actions of ACS employees were actually right. Thus they cover the crime committed by ACS employees. Then, SCO employees commit other crimes stating that parents are not able to look after the kids. It is very obvious when you actually become the victim of the crime. It works as a vicious cycle, organized crime meant to take more money from the government. I think that such issues should be examined by the FBI’s Department of organized crime.
If you think that it will never concern you or your children you are really mistaken. Before they took my children, I had also thought that this would never touch me as my children lived in perfect conditions and we're happy. If you do not have $100,000 to hire a good lawyer then you are already in the category of those parents, for whom social employees falsify the case. They do it not that you are a bad parent but because social service employees can make money on the children taken from their families. If you think that this may never concern you but even if it does then you will contact all the possible organizations to help you, you are really mistaken. I have already been there. I contacted many organizations and some concrete people. Some of the I contacted my mail, some by the forum. Most of them simply did not answer. But those who answered said the same “sorry, if the trial takes place, we cannot help with the situation.” Mass media also does not spread the issue as there is no final court decision yet.
I will get my kids back, as I am not to blame for this situation in any way. I believe in God and justice. If I was guilty and there were reasons for taking the kids from the family I would not write such posts, would not stand on Times Square for 3 months. I would simply work on myself and get rid of my disadvantages. But there were no reasons for taking the kids and there is nothing that I should work on. I asked my friends and acquaintances if they saw problems in me being a father. Everyone told me that I am a good father and they could not see any reasons for taking the kids from the family. My goal is not only getting the kids back but also proving that this whole case was intentionally planned so that the same situation will not concern my children in the future and other parents.
You can’t get exact statistics on how many children were actually taken away from the parents due to the mistakes and falsified lawsuits by the social service employees. As not all good parents are able to stand this and go till the finish to get the kids back. If we do not get concerned about it and be too lazy to make a small step towards the solution to the situation then it will get worse in the future and more parents will lose their children. This also may concern your children or grandchildren. Look upon the internet for such a query as “false accusations CPS”, you will see 10 thousand of internet websites and this is not everything. Multiply this number by 10 and you will get a number close to the number of unpublished materials.
I have been suggested by many to write a petition and collect the signatures for that. I won’t write a petition for that. I will get the kids back with the help of justice. But the petition should be written in order to help the other families. For that purpose, I have opened another topic on this forum
“petition supporting children and parents”.
Many people reading this post will say that I talk too negatively of social service employees. But I only write the truth with no additions. Can you imagine a situation that somebody has beaten your child in front of you? What kind of reaction will you have? It is in the nature of every parent to protect their children. Any animal protecting his child will become aggressive. Any parent that loves his child will always protect him. Social service employees do not do it very well and some of them will use it against the parents. Why haven’t I been deprived of parental rights? Although social service employees have tried to do that. The answer is that I do not have this negativity and aggressiveness even for those that hurt my children. I constantly pray to God, I purify myself from negativity, I always try to be positive.
Therefore, during the last 3,5 years, there was not a single mistake because of which I could be deprived of parental rights.
If the social service employees work with me in order to make money for me and my children then I will work with them to change them. I want them to read it. I want them to analyze their actions from the side. I want you to read the opinions of other people and think about your actions. Social service employees must be humans first of all. Your responsibility is to help the kids, your mission is to give children happiness, kindness, and good life. Look at what you have done, how many families you have destroyed. How many children have you hurt? How many parents have you made unhappy? How many lives have you broken? And what for – in order to earn money? In order to pay for your living and cars? Do not falsify the claims to have more material to work with. It is better if you get laid off or fired. The happy life of a child is worthy of that. You can say anything you want to the public. But put your soul and heart in accordance with love towards the kids. If you see that there is a problem in some situation, then help this family to solve the issue. Do everything possible for the children to stay with their parents except the cases when it is risky for the child’s life and health. The government and people have trusted you the kids, do your best to justify this trust. If you have faith in God, then pray to Him to forgive your sins. Do your best to change yourself and your attitude towards others. If you do your best to help the children, you will have your own children and they will be happy.
Happiness is not about how much you have earned but how many kids and people you have helped.
Do your best so that kids are not taken from the family even for 1 minute. Remember that being with his family is the most important for the kids.
If I could change something in your heart and this could prevent even one withdrawal of a kid from the family. I will be happy. It means that I have gone through all of it for a reason.
May God help us and become better people. May God purify you from negativity and may he fill your hearts with love to the kids. May you have a desire to help the kids even if it might not be beneficial for you. May it be that way.
